I may have covered this briefly before but it's on my mind from the previous post.
"Contentment" seems realistically defined as "enjoyment of whatever may be desired". That definition is realistic because the more contented an individual or community becomes the less extreme so more acceptable their desires will be. Contentment is an intuitive natural concept, whereas "peace" is a civil and so non-intuitive concept dependent on restriction, whereas contentment was and is self sustaining. (Wikipedia)
Does it make sense that we first have to be content with our current state in order to progress? I grapple with this because I've studied (via observation) when people change. It seems like (now this is not scientific so don't quote me-just an observation) whenever a person loses weight or changes their eating or adds exercise into their weekly routine on a consistent basis they were content when they started their journey. Now stay with me here. Think about it. People who are already content have a healthy state of mind from the get-to. People who aren't content but think they will be content if they lose the weight might not be in the most healthy state of mind. Here's the kicker though, I think there are varying degrees of contentment. I don't think it's black or white. I think it's something that we're either mostly content or mostly not content.
So try something for me. Do it on your own and then tell me about your experiment months or years from now. Here's my proposal: take a hard look at your state of mind. Are you always nagging on yourself, putting yourself down (either thinking it or saying it out loud). If you answered yes to any part of that question also answer this: does it parallel with your inability to lose weight and/or eat healthy and exercise regularly? Just because I firmly believe in the definition of insanity (doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results) how about trying something different? The mind is a powerful thinking organ. If we pollute our brain with nasty thoughts and words it's not going to work nearly like it should. Maybe this isn't an issue for you but something else is. Or maybe it is an issue and you need input from someone else. Check out www.insightkc.org. I betcha they can help!
Tuesday, August 23, 2011
Monday, August 22, 2011
We All Say It
"I want to live a healthy lifestyle."
Do you think the verbiage just spins off our tongues without really thinking it through? That it's ingrained in what we know we should do but don't fully believe in it enough for daily practice? I'm going to talk straight for a moment. So often I hear of people making a bigger deal of what they just did but should be doing anyway. For example, someone feels really good about running 4 miles. They haven't ran 4 miles in years but they did it just this one time so they tell the world via facebook. I'm not digging on the person running 4 miles (or on facebook). It's sort of dangerous but sort of a step in the right direction, sort of (but not really). They are trying and what they did feels like such a big deal and they are so proud of themselves.
Here's what I'm trying to say, would we have to tell every person we see in a given day that we brushed our teeth this morning? Of course not! It's a given we do it everyday in order to maintain oral health. So why do we make such a huge deal about exercise?
A hobby of mine is studying people who have what I want. I ask myself what they are doing to get what I apparently want. How did they get to where they are now? And I ask myself what are they doing every single day. When I ask these questions about a person that has what I want; I replicate. The same is true for health. I look at someone that's healthy. A person that "lives a healthy lifestyle." To them, exercise and eating right are just the same as brushing their teeth. It's no big deal because they don't give themselves the option. Brushing their teeth everyday is mandatory. Exercise everyday (or most days out of a week) is mandatory. Eating lots of veggies and fruit and whole grains is mandatory. They have bought into the theory of "living a healthy lifestyle." They've bought into it so much that it's a non-issue. There is no stress about if they are going to the gym or not. There is no stress about if they are going to eat loads of sugar today. The answers are ingrained into who they are. There is no bragging about what they ate today or how many minutes they spent on the treadmill. It's an everyday occurrence and would get extremely old talking about and obsessing about everyday.
So that's the idea of where we want to go and who we want to be. I think we all can say it would be refreshing to stop obsessing. To stop talking and just do. There's so much more to live for than being unhappy about where we are and dramatize over what we "know we should do" but aren't living it out daily.
Here's the kicker: you don't have to talk about what you're doing because after time people will notice. We all hear people talking about what they are doing or what they are going to do. To me, it's fluff. It became fluff a long time ago because I'm the most gullible person out there. Seriously. I used to get made fun of for all the random things I would believe. As my husband says, "I'm a marketers dream." Okay, so maybe I'm still a little gullible (you can make fun of me later). And I am because when someone tells me they are going to do something, I believe them with my whole being. I believe that what they are telling me is the 100% God's honest truth. This might be a result of one major concept: I believe in people and know they can do whatever it is they really want to do. Isn't believing the ticket? If we believe in ourselves to the very end, believe that even when it gets really, really tough we can still pull through because what we sought out to do matters. I think so.
Do you think the verbiage just spins off our tongues without really thinking it through? That it's ingrained in what we know we should do but don't fully believe in it enough for daily practice? I'm going to talk straight for a moment. So often I hear of people making a bigger deal of what they just did but should be doing anyway. For example, someone feels really good about running 4 miles. They haven't ran 4 miles in years but they did it just this one time so they tell the world via facebook. I'm not digging on the person running 4 miles (or on facebook). It's sort of dangerous but sort of a step in the right direction, sort of (but not really). They are trying and what they did feels like such a big deal and they are so proud of themselves.
Here's what I'm trying to say, would we have to tell every person we see in a given day that we brushed our teeth this morning? Of course not! It's a given we do it everyday in order to maintain oral health. So why do we make such a huge deal about exercise?
A hobby of mine is studying people who have what I want. I ask myself what they are doing to get what I apparently want. How did they get to where they are now? And I ask myself what are they doing every single day. When I ask these questions about a person that has what I want; I replicate. The same is true for health. I look at someone that's healthy. A person that "lives a healthy lifestyle." To them, exercise and eating right are just the same as brushing their teeth. It's no big deal because they don't give themselves the option. Brushing their teeth everyday is mandatory. Exercise everyday (or most days out of a week) is mandatory. Eating lots of veggies and fruit and whole grains is mandatory. They have bought into the theory of "living a healthy lifestyle." They've bought into it so much that it's a non-issue. There is no stress about if they are going to the gym or not. There is no stress about if they are going to eat loads of sugar today. The answers are ingrained into who they are. There is no bragging about what they ate today or how many minutes they spent on the treadmill. It's an everyday occurrence and would get extremely old talking about and obsessing about everyday.
So that's the idea of where we want to go and who we want to be. I think we all can say it would be refreshing to stop obsessing. To stop talking and just do. There's so much more to live for than being unhappy about where we are and dramatize over what we "know we should do" but aren't living it out daily.
Here's the kicker: you don't have to talk about what you're doing because after time people will notice. We all hear people talking about what they are doing or what they are going to do. To me, it's fluff. It became fluff a long time ago because I'm the most gullible person out there. Seriously. I used to get made fun of for all the random things I would believe. As my husband says, "I'm a marketers dream." Okay, so maybe I'm still a little gullible (you can make fun of me later). And I am because when someone tells me they are going to do something, I believe them with my whole being. I believe that what they are telling me is the 100% God's honest truth. This might be a result of one major concept: I believe in people and know they can do whatever it is they really want to do. Isn't believing the ticket? If we believe in ourselves to the very end, believe that even when it gets really, really tough we can still pull through because what we sought out to do matters. I think so.
Tuesday, August 9, 2011
Nuggets of Motivation
Random words that have inspired me lately:
The difference between who you are and who you want to be is what you do.
What if this whole journey of getting healthy could be more about what we're in the process of gaining than what we're losing?
Virtually everyone who overcomes will tell you their victory is the sum total of a whole lot of wise decisions that they made day by day.
I had to stop thinking about what I shouldn't have and park my mind of thoughts of being thankful for what I could have.
Thursday, August 4, 2011
September Schedule
I bet it almost kills me but I've decided to try out an early morning schedule (with 1 night class option) in September. While I'm a night owl and I think this new schedule will be difficult, I'm open to change. This should be a good change for 4 reasons: 1.) I'll get to spend more time with my little family in the evenings. 2.) The women that sign up for the class should be able to make it to every class as there isn't much else going on at the wee hours of the morning. 3.) Beginnings. Each month is a new beginning. A new start but a continuance from the previous. They all add up but it's completing small parts to a bigger whole. 4.) Budgeting. I think going to a monthly schedule will make budgeting for training a whole lot easier and manageable when it's a monthly investment that is predictable.
"Everyone must choose one of two pains: The pain of discipline or the pain of regret." ~Jim Rohn
That being said, don't regret inactivity this fall. Email me if you're interested in joining in the inspiration and motivation that comes with training4women classes. They can be life changing if you're open to it!
All classes meet on Tuesdays and Thursdays
Dates: September 6-27
Number of Classes: 7
Location: FIT gym (new women's only gym located at 152 and 291)
Investment: $105
Session Options:
5am-Class FULL
6am-Class FULL
6pm-3 spots
I'm in the business of helping so if I can't help you personally because a class is full, the time doesn't work or whatever, email me. I'd love to refer you to a class or someone that can help. There's always a way...if you're willing!
"Everyone must choose one of two pains: The pain of discipline or the pain of regret." ~Jim Rohn
That being said, don't regret inactivity this fall. Email me if you're interested in joining in the inspiration and motivation that comes with training4women classes. They can be life changing if you're open to it!
All classes meet on Tuesdays and Thursdays
Dates: September 6-27
Number of Classes: 7
Location: FIT gym (new women's only gym located at 152 and 291)
Investment: $105
Session Options:
5am-Class FULL
6am-Class FULL
6pm-3 spots
I'm in the business of helping so if I can't help you personally because a class is full, the time doesn't work or whatever, email me. I'd love to refer you to a class or someone that can help. There's always a way...if you're willing!
Tuesday, July 12, 2011
Transformation
I have a different perspective about weight loss than the media, the weight loss stores and all the hype in our culture. There's got to be a paradigm shift in one's mind to think this way. What if we started thinking in terms of decades, in years, not in days, weeks or months? I know that my body will transform in the next year and in the next decade one way or another. It will either slowly get stronger or slowly get weaker. All the little things are what make up how we look and feel each passing year and decade. Think about it and it really does make sense. The reason a person looks and feels the way they do today is a result of their habits over the past year.
Researchers have found that visualization is key. If we can envision and believe that we will be a healthier person we will start making changes. So believing in the change is key. We have to first realize that the change is worth the end result. If we don't completely buy into the end result we won't make the change. Visualizing yourself being the healthiest, fittest and physically strong in the next year and decade is the root concept.
What I'm not a fan of at all is extreme dieting that looks like starvation, extreme diets or lots of regimen that we can't follow long term. Sure it might get us from point A to point B quickly. But then point C is ugly. And what is point C? Answer: worse than we were at in point A because all the extreme dieting only gave us a short term answer. We didn't transform, we didn't truly change. The snail route completely revolves around transformation. And isn't transformation what will get us long term success?
So we have this knowledge that every year we get older, every decade that passes us by, our metabolism slows and our body ages. It can become weak, decondition and aged. If we took that information and embraced it with open arms and an open mind we'd get somewhere as a society. Instead we play the insanity game. We keep going around the crazy circle of losing weight quickly only to put it back on quicker. We skip the TRANSFORMATION process because we don't want to face it. We don't want to face that we have issues that have to be addressed. The key here is continuing to refine. It's not big flashy changes but small polishing to slowly create a big change.
Researchers have found that visualization is key. If we can envision and believe that we will be a healthier person we will start making changes. So believing in the change is key. We have to first realize that the change is worth the end result. If we don't completely buy into the end result we won't make the change. Visualizing yourself being the healthiest, fittest and physically strong in the next year and decade is the root concept.
What I'm not a fan of at all is extreme dieting that looks like starvation, extreme diets or lots of regimen that we can't follow long term. Sure it might get us from point A to point B quickly. But then point C is ugly. And what is point C? Answer: worse than we were at in point A because all the extreme dieting only gave us a short term answer. We didn't transform, we didn't truly change. The snail route completely revolves around transformation. And isn't transformation what will get us long term success?
So we have this knowledge that every year we get older, every decade that passes us by, our metabolism slows and our body ages. It can become weak, decondition and aged. If we took that information and embraced it with open arms and an open mind we'd get somewhere as a society. Instead we play the insanity game. We keep going around the crazy circle of losing weight quickly only to put it back on quicker. We skip the TRANSFORMATION process because we don't want to face it. We don't want to face that we have issues that have to be addressed. The key here is continuing to refine. It's not big flashy changes but small polishing to slowly create a big change.
Tuesday, June 28, 2011
Say It Like It Is
I really appreciate people who talk straight. My husband does it and many other people that I completely respect do it too. Tony Horton, creator of the very popular P90X, recently wrote a blog entry that I really enjoyed reading. It's a whole lot of straight talk. While I understand this sort of talk doesn't motivate everyone, a good kick in the pants really gets me going.
I'll list the link to his blog and the entry here but also paste it below. Take a minute to read it as I rarely copy and paste other's words but this is a different sort of perspective than what I would normally write or talk about. My approach offers more grace (not excuses) and more of you finding where you need to go with guided direction. I'm different than most trainers and I know that but I can definitely appreciate where other trainers are coming from.
You know who you are. You’ve got all the answers and your lousy at taking sound advice because it’s easier to be lazy. The tilt-a-whirl of disappointment goes round and round and you pretend everything is okay. You’re not fooling anyone and everyone else knows what you’re up to. It’s easy to lack self discipline because you’re not alone. Misery loves company.
I’m sick and tired of hearing why you can’t stop eating crap. Stop blaming your thyroid, boyfriend, childhood and ancestry because it’s not working. The problem is your inability to face reality. The real issues are your lack of accountability, willpower, determination and the lousy company you keep. It’s also your lame plan or lack there of. Your reasons why suck and you don’t tell the truth about what you stuff in your face when no one is looking.
Your horrendous eating habits is the American terrorist within. If the level of disease caused by unhealthy choices continues at this alarming rate then we will destroy ourselves without any help from the bad guys. Fad diets, pills and miracle potions used to lose weight never work in the long term and they never will. Dozens of studies show that calorie control diets that still allow you to eat forms of unhealthy food always fail. I’ve never met anyone who started a “weight lose only” diet and stayed on it. So you lost 50 pounds and kept it off for 5 years. Why did you gain it all back in 6 months during year six? Are you proud of that?
When diet deprivation becomes too much the closet eating begins. Your reasons for falling off the wagon are plenty and you’ll defend them till you’re blue in the face. Good for you for choosing the option that required you to be lazy again. Choosing gluttony is no way to build your manifesto my friend. What is your reason for being on this earth? Why do you really put that garbage in your mouth? Do you want to know why? Do you want to look at it closely? Do you care enough?
The simple answer is choice. I hope you weren’t expecting something more complicated. How do you choose what to be? How will you work to be better than before? Who will you surround yourself with? How long will your better choices last? Will you continue to be the closet garbage eater or will you finally get your act together, stop making it about you all the time and begin to be an example to the people in your life who need your help?
I'll list the link to his blog and the entry here but also paste it below. Take a minute to read it as I rarely copy and paste other's words but this is a different sort of perspective than what I would normally write or talk about. My approach offers more grace (not excuses) and more of you finding where you need to go with guided direction. I'm different than most trainers and I know that but I can definitely appreciate where other trainers are coming from.
You know who you are. You’ve got all the answers and your lousy at taking sound advice because it’s easier to be lazy. The tilt-a-whirl of disappointment goes round and round and you pretend everything is okay. You’re not fooling anyone and everyone else knows what you’re up to. It’s easy to lack self discipline because you’re not alone. Misery loves company.
I’m sick and tired of hearing why you can’t stop eating crap. Stop blaming your thyroid, boyfriend, childhood and ancestry because it’s not working. The problem is your inability to face reality. The real issues are your lack of accountability, willpower, determination and the lousy company you keep. It’s also your lame plan or lack there of. Your reasons why suck and you don’t tell the truth about what you stuff in your face when no one is looking.
Your horrendous eating habits is the American terrorist within. If the level of disease caused by unhealthy choices continues at this alarming rate then we will destroy ourselves without any help from the bad guys. Fad diets, pills and miracle potions used to lose weight never work in the long term and they never will. Dozens of studies show that calorie control diets that still allow you to eat forms of unhealthy food always fail. I’ve never met anyone who started a “weight lose only” diet and stayed on it. So you lost 50 pounds and kept it off for 5 years. Why did you gain it all back in 6 months during year six? Are you proud of that?
When diet deprivation becomes too much the closet eating begins. Your reasons for falling off the wagon are plenty and you’ll defend them till you’re blue in the face. Good for you for choosing the option that required you to be lazy again. Choosing gluttony is no way to build your manifesto my friend. What is your reason for being on this earth? Why do you really put that garbage in your mouth? Do you want to know why? Do you want to look at it closely? Do you care enough?
The simple answer is choice. I hope you weren’t expecting something more complicated. How do you choose what to be? How will you work to be better than before? Who will you surround yourself with? How long will your better choices last? Will you continue to be the closet garbage eater or will you finally get your act together, stop making it about you all the time and begin to be an example to the people in your life who need your help?
Monday, June 27, 2011
Doing Less to Get More
What if we lived a life where material possessions didn't matter? A life where contentment met us every single day just because we got what we needed and there wasn't anything we wanted? We didn't have to work long hours, stress about the mortgage, worry about how we're too heavy, not pretty enough or not good enough. What if we just were?
Couldn't this be our life if we reached out and grabbed it? Every single day I work on contentment because I know dissatisfaction is my reflection in the mirror. Last week and into the weekend we painted most of the inside of our house including the garage (because I'm just that way). Don't get me wrong I feel so great about it. I just love the colors and am so glad that it's over and done and we did it. But I couldn't help but think during the process how insignificant the color of my walls on the inside of my house really are. How the time I spent painting I could have spent playing on the floor with my 5 month old or riding bikes with my 4 year old. Granted I squeezed in both activities but not for as long as I could have without the project. It seems so meaningless in the whole big realm of things yet in my mind it has to be done. Dissatisfaction. Discontentment. Those two words seem to constantly overpower contentment.
I think those two words are the root issue. We have to be pleased with who we are, where we are in life's journey in order to get anywhere effectively.
Instead of adding more, strategically plan items out of your life. Maybe I'm just wired differently but I'd rather have a small simple house with a small mortgage payment that's on it's way out the door in order to live without bills being jammed down my throat. If we do less and consume less I think we get so much more. Don't you? Granted, it's not the American way but is the American way really the right way? I think we can all agree something is completely wrong in our culture.
Couldn't this be our life if we reached out and grabbed it? Every single day I work on contentment because I know dissatisfaction is my reflection in the mirror. Last week and into the weekend we painted most of the inside of our house including the garage (because I'm just that way). Don't get me wrong I feel so great about it. I just love the colors and am so glad that it's over and done and we did it. But I couldn't help but think during the process how insignificant the color of my walls on the inside of my house really are. How the time I spent painting I could have spent playing on the floor with my 5 month old or riding bikes with my 4 year old. Granted I squeezed in both activities but not for as long as I could have without the project. It seems so meaningless in the whole big realm of things yet in my mind it has to be done. Dissatisfaction. Discontentment. Those two words seem to constantly overpower contentment.
I think those two words are the root issue. We have to be pleased with who we are, where we are in life's journey in order to get anywhere effectively.
Instead of adding more, strategically plan items out of your life. Maybe I'm just wired differently but I'd rather have a small simple house with a small mortgage payment that's on it's way out the door in order to live without bills being jammed down my throat. If we do less and consume less I think we get so much more. Don't you? Granted, it's not the American way but is the American way really the right way? I think we can all agree something is completely wrong in our culture.
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